OUR STRUGGLE

Our story is not unique. We know this. There are many couples in the United States who are unable to conceive a biological child.

We also know that our struggle is not universal: not everyone wants to be a parent.

We do, however, believe that almost anyone can relate to the disappointment, frustration, and anger felt when things do not turn out as you might have dreamed and imagined.

Like many couples who have struggled with infertility, we started off our marriage believing that we would get pregnant as soon as we were ready. On and off over the past several years, we went down down the typical path that one would assume for a couple who hopes to be pregnant. We visited a handful of fertility specialists, had a huge panel of tests performed and even attempted a few months on medications suggested to enhance our fertility. But we always came away with the feeling that something just was not right about this approach.  We were constantly frustrated with doctors labeling our issues as "unexplained infertility" and suggesting medications and surgery without solid reasoning as to WHY they were necessary.

Ultimately, we decided that this route was not for us.

We were heartbroken. We were devastated. Our faith was tested. Our marriage was tested. However, our struggle has not led us down a permanent path of despair. Our infertility struggle has ultimately proven to be a blessing!  We have grown stronger in our love of God and believe he has a plan for us. We are so grateful for our marriage and the comfort we find in one another.  We have strengthened the bonds of our families and have shared our story with our friends. We have reached out to our faith community, and have found kindness and support. We are so lucky.

With joyful anticipation we began the process of Domestic Adoption with Hope's Promise, a local Christian Adoption agency in Castle Rock, in October 2014.  After much research we decided upon this agency due to their excellent reputation (we had a few referrals) and their sincere commitment to showing compassion to all members of the adoption triad.